So as I've watched everyone's wonderful "30 Days of Thankfulness" posts pop up each day I decided I would save mine for my blog and challenge myself, just like I had asked my students to, to see how many negatives I could flip the frame on and show thankfulness for. Of course, I'm thankful for many of the common things that frequented this month's Facebook posts; God's blessings, my family, my health, etc. However I took another route; I kept note of the things I gripe about most often, thankfully there aren't 30, but there are still quite a few. Then I tried to "flip my negative frame of mind" to turn that gripe into a thankful thought. So here is my "Unlikely things to be Thankful for items" (in no particular order) that I have flipped my frame around:
Waiting - I'm not much on it...I don't like to make others wait, I don't like to wait myself. However, if you find yourself waiting, the time that you may consider being wasted could be just what you need at the moment. It could mean your given time to think or re-think about things, reflect, make a much needed "to-do list" to organize yourself, or clean out that purse that has become the bottomless pit.
Mean People - Sometimes you encounter others that are just mean. They may or may not be strangers. You know the types...the ones that are looking through a negative frame as well. Maybe they are sarcastic, put you or your ideas down, or are just plain rude. It makes you angry, makes you want to get revenge, but most importantly it makes me more aware of how I'm treating others. "I hope I don't act like that!" is what I tell myself once the encounter is over and if I ever do..I try to be quick to fix it or apologize. I am thankful that I get that reminder. Without it I may never know what if feels like to be on the receiving end of it and may be guilty of such an offense more often. Remember...everyone is fighting their own battle..
Small home - Yes I admit it...I gripe about the size of our house. The truth is I do get jealous when I see that someone is building their dream home with a laundry room the size of my master bedroom, equipped with a man cave and a playroom for the kids, not to mention all of the "Pinterest" inspired extras. It's selfish...our home is nice and there is not one thing wrong with it, but none the less I complain. However I am thankful for this home. Besides the obvious needs it meets it also keeps our family close. A friend who had once purchased her "dream home" once told me that she wished for her previous little house back and shared this quote with me "Small houses make close families". So true...I always know what's going on in this house, I can hear my boys laughing and playing, and we actually hang out together most of the time. I am thankful for the quality time our small home allows us to share.
Endless Laundry - Oh how I complain about laundry! It's always there and is never ending. It's in piles in the hallway, in the bathroom and because our washer and dryer is in a closet in the kitchen...the kitchen table. However, I am thankful that we want not for clothing. We may not be the trendiest family on the block but our basic needs (and beyond the basics) of clothing are met.
Fatigue - It's no secret that I burn the candle at both ends most days. I do get tired and I'm sure that I don't get the rest that I should...who does? And I complain about it. I am thankful for that tired, worn out feeling. That means that I am able. Able to work, to play hard, be social and do all of the things that make us so happy to get some zzzz's at the end of the day.
NOISE - I complain a lot about noise...T.V. too loud, boys constantly making noise, too many things going on at once. But I'm thankful for that noise. It means we are an active, healthy family and we have many conveniences of life (such as T.V, Ipods, modern day gadgets/appliances) that create noise. Not to mention it makes you appreciate the peace and quiet in the event it comes along. Besides...in this house if things are quiet for too long...something is probably gone wrong :)
Messes - Just like noise, a mess means that our family is active. When Braydon was a baby, Garett and I used to work together each night to clean up after he was tucked in bed. We were meticulous. We would set up his play things piece by piece..making it seem as if we were tidying up a department store for a new day. Ha! Now it's a different story. We are just happy if the clutter from the day before isn't tripping us as we start our mornings and it's very doubtful that Batman and his crew are ever reunited in the Bat Cave at days end. I am thankful for those messes...I complain a lot saying I want my living room back, free of toys and shoes and stuff, but really the tiny tornadoes (and adult tornadoes too) are what make our messy life beautiful.
A check that's spent before you get it - Why is it so hard sometimes? I have a Master's level education but yet there are many months when the ends just don't meet. I am thankful for this because it teaches me value. I fret and worry over finances, but the bottom line is our choices are to blame. And each time I gripe about money and not having enough I learn a much needed lesson about value and priorities.
Bad Weather - We all do it don't we? It's too windy, too rainy, too cold, too hot.... this is simple and it's a quote my sister in law has written about before..not sure if this is exact but it goes something like this..."we would never enjoy the sunshine if it weren't for the rain". This obviously could pertain to many things in life...could sum up this whole post I suppose, but it does seem fitting. We should be thankful for all kinds of weather because any day the Lord has made is good.
Competition/Envy - I pray often about this because I complain often about this. I try hard not to compare myself to others but I do and when I do the green eyed monster rears his head. The positive part about it is motivation. Motivation to improve myself, motivation to let it go. If no one every challenged me in some way I'm sure I may get lazy. I could also re-frame it in that I should not work against others but with them.
Imperfections - We all have them...the ones you may see on the outside or the ones we carry inside. I've started to see more and more as I age...it's inevitable. More wrinkles, a few gray hairs starting to poke through, all of the imperfections I've mentioned so far that I battle everyday. I am thankful for those imperfections...they are what make me the person I am and I wouldn't trade those experiences for anything. I've always liked the quote from Tow Mater in CARS 2 about imperfections...
"Mater: For a second there I thought you was trying to fix my dents.
Holly Shiftwell: Yes, I was.
Mater : Well, no thank you! I don't get them dents buffed, pulled or painted for nobody.Their way too valuable.
Holly Shiftwell: Your dents valuable? Really?
Mater: I came by each one of them with my best friend Lightning McQueen. I don't fix them. I wanna remember these dents forever."
So there you have it...my biggest complaints...flipped into thankfulness for Thanksgiving. Don't get me wrong...It's not like I've given up complaints all together,but I do try to wear my positive pants before I get bogged down by the negative. Sometimes it takes a while, sometimes it takes a prayer, a little blow up that my husband or kids get the brunt of, or a phone call to my best friend or sister to vent before I can muster up the energy. I don't do this alone...I am most thankful to have God in my life. I remember listening to a sermon of at my Mom's church last Thanksgiving. The preacher was saying we all had something to be thankful for and all I could think of was how hard it was to be thankful during the first holiday after losing my Dad to cancer and my Mom facing on-going health problems. Thinking there are some things it's just impossible to be thankful for. Some time later, it took a conversation with my husband to point it out to me that, even losing someone you love so much, can be re-framed. Now I value time spent with loved ones and look at family in a different light, it motivated me to get saved, and maybe I have been used to help someone else in the same situation. Sometimes it may take a while to flip a heavy frame, but in His time, God's pretty good at reminding me (sometimes not so gently) to look from a different perspective and from Him all blessings flow.
