Monday, December 19, 2011

30 Days of Thanksgiving 2011

One of the most popular Facebook trends at the beginning of November this year was for individuals to post what they are thankful for each day of the month. Any who knows me knows that Facebook is one of my guilty pleasures.  However, I didn't participate on FB.  Instead I decided I would save my "thankfulnesses" up so I could put them all in one place (a place like our blog) where I could go back and appreciate them more often.  I, like most of the people I know, have so much to be thankful for but just don't take the time to recognize those things like I should.  I spend way too much energy grumbling about what I don't have instead of appreciating the things before me on a daily basis. So here it goes....my 30 days of thanks.

Day #1 - I am thankful that I have found a church that is, for the first time in my life, actually teaching me.  I feel welcome there and know it's the right place for me because I truly miss it when I can't attend.  I have never been one to push religion on anyone and, for those that know me well, you know I fall from grace...often! I feel comfortable there, feel like my children are taught well there, and can see little changes in my life, I think, because of my involvement there.

Day #2 - I am thankful for my husband, Garett.  Even though we have our moments I know in the end he gets me. He is a great daddy and husband that always has his family in mind.  I never have to worry about where his heart is and even though I take him for granted a lot, I love him with all of my heart.  I need to do better to be sure he knows that.  Relationships are hard work, but I can't think of anyone else I'd rather do that work with...TEAM!


Day #3 - I am thankful for my firstborn, Braydon.  You change when you become a mommy and I believe he changed me for the better.  He is smart, handsome, has such a sense of humor and is one half of my everything! I can't believe he started school this year!  I want to savor every moment with him..just since starting kindergarten I can see him grow every day.  He looks like such a big boy, but he is a great 'nuggler and adores warm blankets and a cold cup of chocolate milk. He is getting so big, but I tell him often, he will always be my baby!


Day #4 - I am thankful for my baby boy, Rhett.  I always knew one baby wouldn't do and have talked about him even before he was born.  He, too, is smart, handsome, with a wonderful sense of humor and has an individual flare that has been present from day one.  His little dimple in his right cheek stole my heart from the very beginning.  He is the other half of my everything! He just turned three and I am none too eager to let him grow up.  I love his baby talk, his sweet stuttering, and his mischievous ways.  He and Braydon are very different, but they are both our "best".



Day #5 - I am thankful for my Mom.  She is very quiet and reserved, but one of the best moms in the world! A great cook, wonderful at giving advice just in time, and loves her children and grandchildren unconditionally.  She has some big changes coming up in the next year with her health and I only hope I can be there to comfort her even half as much as she has for me.  You never realize what all a mother sacrifices for her children until you become a mother yourself.  My mom has made many but never complains or makes a fuss.  I love her lots!



Day #6 - I am thankful for my Dad. He is the opposite of my mom, not quiet and not reserved. He is a hard worker  and opinionated and even in retirement he is busier than most.  He battles cancer and despite clear scans continues to battle the thought of it.  He wants nothing to slow him down.  He too, loves his children and grandchildren unconditionally. He always has advice, sometimes when you don't ask for it, but you always know he only wants what is best for you.  He is smart and has a great sense of humor, especially when he's the one playing the joke.  I call him and my mom now everyday and wish I had started doing that a long time ago.  I value the time I have with them and pray for many, many more years together.


Day #7 - I am thankful for my sister, Kelly.  It's true..we used to despise one another, but now I can truly say she is my best friend.  She does more for me and my family than I could ever repay her for in a million years.  She is a second mother to my children...boy do they love their Aunt KK! She is always quick to our side if we ever need a thing and even when we don't..she's there. She is the most generous person I know and I can't imagine how our whole family would function without her behind the scenes.  She is getting lined up to give my Mom a very special gift...the gift of a better quality of life and I pray that all goes well.  I plan on being there for them through it all.  I love her lots!





Day #8 - I am thankful for my brother, Daran.  Not many people have one great sibling let alone two.  I know I can call him for anything.  Despite the nine years between us he has never made me feel "little". He is a hard worker, a phenomenal Dad, and a wonderful Uncle to my boys! They think Uncle D hung the moon and stars. I do wish we hung out more, but I know he is pretty content being on his farm in his down time.  Over the past few summers we have made some great memories.  I especially love to hear his fire pit stories that he shares with my boys while eating S'mores :)






Day #9 - I am thankful for awesome in-laws.  I was truly blessed when I married into the Hager clan. They have welcomed me with open arms from day
one. My mother-in-law and father-in-law are wonderful...wonderful parents, grandparents and friends.  My sister-in-laws and brother-in-laws are great friends and we always enjoy our time together.  I'm gonna throw my brother-in-law, Steve in this mix as well. He being the only in-law on my side...he is a keeper too!  He is a good role-model for many.


Day #10 - I am grateful for grandparents.  My grandmother, Dorothy aka "Mamaw Means" or "Great Granny Green Beans", as the boys call her, Garett's grandmother's, Maxine aka "Nemo"  and  Alice aka "Old Nanny".  I love to hear their stories..stories of how things used to be, stories about us when we were younger, stories that they have shared over and over.  They make me smile.  I just don't think they make them like that anymore. I can't cook without a recipe, but these ladies can just make to die for biscuits and gravy to die for out of thin air.  I do wish we had those grandparents that have past away with us to see our children and share them with us, but I am thankful for the lesson, stories, and memories they left us.




Day #11- I am so grateful for my three best friends from high school!  We have been friends for over 25 years and I can't imagine not being able to call them up.  Unfortunately I moved the furthest away, but it really isn't too bad.  We are all so busy that we have to schedule time to be with one another, but when we are together it is just like it was when we left off. I trust these girls with everything! As a matter of fact they know so much, we could probably never split up..it would be too dangerous for us all.




Day #12 - I am grateful for my new friendships since college.  The girls that I have either worked with, shared common threads with or have met in my adulthood.  Being a friend is much more difficult when you are a wife and a mommy.  I am so glad that these ladies take the time to keep in touch with me and I hope that I am as considered as much as a friend by them as they are to me.

Day #13 - I am thankful for my job and the folks I work with on a daily basis.  I complain a lot about not having enough money but really I couldn't ask for a better job.  I love that I get to work with children, I love that the same thing never really happens twice, and I love that I can make a positive difference.  The people I work with really are like a family and where I have met some of the most inspirational, creative people I know.  I can count on them for anything and I rely on them a lot.

Day #14 - I am thankful for my warm home.  I see first hand how some families barely get by...don't get me wrong..we barely get by some months but we rarely have to worry about the roof over our heads.  It is where our most precious memories are made and where our boys will remember their "wonder years".  It is just big enough for us at this time in our lives and it is lived in.  Someone once told me "small houses make close families" and that is true for us..I really wouldn't want it any other way.  (Well..maybe a basement for the boys to romp in wouldn't be that awful ;0)

Day #15 - I am thankful for my nephews and niece.  I have two waves of generations...my two older nephews I consider more like brothers.  They are adults now and I am very proud of the men they have become. I know they will continue to grow and make me proud.  My other nephews and niece are all under the age of four and one on the way.  I hope I can be a good Aunt to them; one that they will have great memories of when they grow up.  It is harder with them because now I have two young boys of my own..but I want them all to grow up knowing what it is like to have close cousins and and aunt and uncle that adore them.




Day 16 - I am thankful for random acts of kindness.  I, myself, am not that good at this concept, but it is certainly something I would like to improve on.  I have been the recipient of some of those acts and it seems like they come just in time.  "Thank you" to those people that make an effort to do something nice for someone without expecting anything in return.

Day 17 - I am thankful for my health.  I complain too much about how I look, feel, or can't do things the way I used to, but the truth is I am very lucky.  I take my and my immediate family's health for granted.  With my parents both having significant health issues I am constantly reminded that I should do more to enhance the health I have been blessed with.  This has sparked many bursts of "do betterness's" that usually takes a backseat once things get hectic again.  Not only am I lucky but I am lucky to have two very healthy boys and husband.  There is little we can't do because of health reasons. 

Day 18 - I am thankful for my hobbies.  I don't think I'll ever have to worry that I don't have enough to do....that I'll get bored. Recently I have taken my favorite hobby to a new level. I love to take pictures and I have been able to dabble in doing photography for others.  It must be working for I have photographed over ten families/events since February and it seems to be something that may stick around.  Besides photography I have a ton of other projects...Garett gets so tired of my "stacks" around the house I know, but at least it keeps me busy (as if I don't have enough to keep me going already).

Day 19 - I am thankful for my "raising". There was a time when I couldn't wait to get away from where I grew up, a rural community in Bath County, Kentucky.  But recently, with every trip I make back there to visit I become more and more proud.  Not necessarily of the place itself, but of the way that I grew up.  On a farm, with lots of time to romp and play and a family that worked hard and loved one another.  I see a lot of families at my work that have a hard time knowing, understanding, or much less being proud of their roots and it's hard for me to imagine not having that foundation. 

Day 20 - I am grateful for patience.  Some who know me best may think I don't really have them, but I feel that I'm getting better with time.  But it's not only mine that I'm thankful for...I am thankful with the patience of those around me.  I mess up a lot and without their patience I'm sure some would have already given up on me.

Day 21 - I am thankful to be an American...I know..it sounds like I'm about to break out in Lee Greenwood's lyrics, but honestly I can't imagine living anywhere else.  Part of that is because I haven't traveled abroad, but from what I can see on the nightly news we have so many freedoms to be thankful for compared to our international neighbors. I am not political in any shape or form, but I appreciate the fact that men and women risk their lives daily to keep my family out of harms way. I also appreciate the fact that I can walk about, say what I feel, and have the rights that I do each and every day.


Day 22 - I am thankful for some of my favorite things; hot chocolate, quiet nights, awesome photographs, summer days that last forever, snow days, naps cuddled next to my boys, and the list goes on and on. Sometimes it's the little things that make you appreciate life the most.

Day 23 - I am thankful for technology.  Yes..I am an iphone, facebook, pinterest, blogger nerd.  But technology is what enables me to keep in touch with those I love most, keep up to date on my curiosities, keeps me learning new things, and helps keep me "with it".  It's hard for me to go unplugged..I know it's necessary sometimes but I do love my techno gadgets :) (probably not as much as my sister...but I do)

Day 24 - I am thankful for children...not just mine, but children in general.  They are innocent and precious. If only we didn't lose that as we get older... If I had it my way I would have a house full, but that isn't going to happen so I will be thankful for the two that are my own and the many I get to work with each day.

Day 25 - I am thankful for modern conveniences, besides my techno gadgets. For example, microwave meals, instant whatevers, lunchables, disposable contacts, paper plates, artificial trees, and the list could go on and on...I know it's not very "green" of me, but let's face it...these little things that save time sure do help this working momma out. I know I would not have survived "back in the day".  It's not that I am always about quick and easy but it seriously reduces my stress on a regular basis.

Day 26 - I am grateful for humor.  You know the saying "If couldn't laugh about it I'd cry.", well that sums up many of my days. I love a good belly laugh and the only day that is a good day is a day that I have laughed.  Sometimes I probably use humor when it is not appropriate...so if I have offended someone I am sorry, but honestly it's the best coping mechanism I have going for me.  If Garett reads this I have a feeling he will disagree with me (I get the feeling he thinks I need a better sense of humor about a lot of things) but sometimes husband/wife issues are not funny, especially if I'm upset ;0.

Day 27 - I love music and I am thankful for being able jam out to the radio, even if it just the short trip between home and school drop offs. I love every genre (minus heavy metal) and usually a song pops in my head many times over the day.  It's nothing for me to bust out a lyric at awkward times because the situation reminds me of a song (I don't always get the lyrics just exactly right, but in my head they sound right).

Day 28 - I am thankful for the seasons.  There is something about each one of them I love. I love that we live in an area that gets to see all four of them for a somewhat equal amount of time.  They each have their own beauty and strong points and I always find myself looking forward to the next. 

Day 29 - I am thankful for my experiences ...good and bad.  That's what builds character right? Enough said.

Day 30 - I am thankful for the path my life has taken.  Boy does that sound cheesy! But it's true.  I can't imagine being anywhere else.  I really do believe things happen for a reason and we are all part of a bigger plan than we can even start to fathom.

Here is to another year full of amazing blessings!


Thursday, September 8, 2011

Follow Him.....

Okay...so I barely missed August's post, but geesh, we had a lot of preparations going on at the Hager house and not to mention we had to squeeze every single second from our summer! Preparations for school..yep that's right, not just me going back to school this year, but my babies just got bigger! Braydon is now attending kindergarten, and much to my dismay, Rhett is now going to pre-school. Nothing against the pre-school, it's just that due to his late birthday he will get a good three year dose of pre-school and misses his private sitter terribly.
One of the hardest parts of the past few weeks is the separation anxiety Rhett has been experiencing..not from me...from his brother! I can only hope they stay as close as they have been this summer.  Rarely is one without the other and this summer they began to play together more and seemed to really enjoy one another's company.  Of course, there were times they pestered each other and pushed one another's buttons, but for the most part they are best friends, which makes me so happy! After we had Braydon I knew in my heart of hearts that we just had to have another baby.  I had selfish reasons of course...you know when the baby loses his baby look and you miss that baby smell around the house? but the more long-term reason was so that Braydon would never have to be alone once Garett and I move on. I know that my siblings are a blessing now that I'm an adult.  If you would have asked me that 15 years ago my answer may have been different, but there are also many more years between us than between my boys, so for me at times it was like having another set of parents.  But now, they are my best friends and I depend on them for many things.  The cool thing is that Braydon and Rhett seem to have that bond now and I can only imagine how much stronger that has the potential of being as they grow.  I often pray that I won't screw that up for them by the way I treat them in relation to one another.  They are so different in their personalities that you do sometimes have to treat them differently and I never want to favor one over the other.  It is true that you don't love more one than the other.  I know my mother -in- law told me that when I was pregnant with Rhett and worried at first of how I could ever love another baby boy as much as I have loved the the first born.  But you just do..your heart grows in size so that your love knows no limits.
With all that being said...it is so cute to see Rhett follow Braydon as if he is his one and only role model.  In turn, it is adorable to see Braydon teach Rhett everything he knows as if his 2 1/2 years seniority has given him many moons of expertise to share. Rhett follows up with everything Braydon says with a head nod and a look as if he could never be wrong or untruthful.  He is consoled by him, seeks his approval and watches his every move. It was heartbreaking and so sweet at the same time the first week of school when Rhett cried as Braydon boarded his bus because he didn't have a bus and then cried again when Braydon got off the bus at Rhett's pre-school, which is Braydon's after school care, and hugged Rhett for a millisecond before he ran off to play with his same aged friends.  He can also be the most hurt by him and gets the most aggravated with him at times..after all they are still brothers.  But I truly think they have a bond that will stand the test of time.  When I get down because I know we won't have more babies I think of what a third may do to their relationship and count my blessings that we have two awesome boys that will have one another forever...I just wish they didn't grow so fast, because when one is grown...I know the other will only want to "follow him"!
Braydon doing his homework so he can be the "B"expert...guess who else is an expert?


Sporting brother's goggles.

Moving the "boat" using the con"toe"lers ;)

Rhett's teacher caught him conducting a puppet show during nap time...LOL!

Braydon with his "caught being good" sticker!

So proud of his letter water painting...helping Bray with his homework!

I know..cruel mommy..taking a picture of him during one of his bad mornings because he knows Braydon goes to a different school than he does.


Admiring the cows at the Kentucky State Fair.

Keeping his eyes on brother ;)

Not sure what they were playing but it required the hoodies as a costume.

Rhett not happy walking into school without Braydon.

Braydon so bravely waving goodbye on his 1st day of Kindergarten...Rhett is melting down right about now...and then my tears flow.

I love these guys!  They are my everything!


Braydon showing Rhett some interesting fish at the aquarium.

Happy playing together!


Braydon has hooked Rhett on Billy the Exterminator...one of their most favorite things to pretend.

Side by side...I hope they always stay that way.


Braydon teaching Rhett his ABC's,

Ricky (Rhett) and his brother Billy (Braydon).

Rhett wearing his brother's flip flops...loves him every step of the way!

Just being goofy...boy can they get one another going!

You've heard of blood brother?....How about "mud" brothers?

So sweet....a hard day at play calls for a good night's rest :)))) One of my most favorite pictures of the summer.

Friday, July 1, 2011

RanDom THouGHtS about the beginning of a rAnDOm SuMMEr!

Seems like it's been forever since my last post...I almost let my goal of "post at least once a month" slip past me..as it is technically July1..so here goes June's...


The definition for "random" is lacking any definite plan or order or purpose...and I like my summers that way!
Smiley face pizzas for lunch!
Living room camp out

Random Thought #1 - One would think our home is neater and more organized during the summer months. After all, I have a "school" job and am off at least two months of the year.  However, I have a totally different philosophy about staying at home during the summer break..."let it be"!  I spend a majority of my time during the working months planning, scheduling, organizing, delegating, preparing, etc...so during the days I have at home I refuse!  I do what needs to get done, but the rest is dedicated to my family and my hobbies that I don't have time for when working a 40+ hour week.  I have to do those things when I'm working to survive and get us going everyday, therefore, my time off is just that..time off!  So if you come visit with us this summer, we will have fun and enjoy your company, but please don't judge because I have "quit" for the summer.
Hallway stays like this for days....you should see the kitchen! Yikes!  Not to mention the laundry!









Random Thought #2 -
It feels good to do what you love! 
Back in February, one of my best friends of all time, Misty Otis, (actually 29 years to be exact) asked me to take some pictures at her first event (She had recently started an event planning business and inflatables business...A Fabulous Affair & Jumping Jimmyz Inflatables...check her out!)  Now I have taken pictures forever and each year I get a little more into it....just ask my friends..."Old Time Photos anyone?" I enjoy everything about them.  I have boxes upon boxes of pictures from years past lined up in my closet..thank goodness I went digital for there is very little room left.  I have taken photography classes in my "take my summer's to learn something new" era, I sit and look at photos for hours, I scrapbook and now, thanks to that call in February, I am starting to sell my photographs to others.  So far I have done two small, intimate weddings, and a few shoots with families I know, but I'm hoping to do more! Competition is tough I know, but as Garett says, "I'm obsessed with pictures." and most of all it is a great release for me to do what I love! Thanks Misty for the encouragement and confidence to go out and try something new! I love ya!

Random Thought #3 -
Mr. Disney,
Your team really let me down with the sequel to CARS  :( 
Sorry..I just had to say it.  
The Hagers had been looking forward to the debut of CARS 2 for months...maybe even since the 1st one was seen...and finally it arrived...June 24th...pre-paid tickets..check...new t-shirts....check.....Mater teeth for the family...check....planning of a follow-up Drive In showing...check...and many more movie merchandise purchases too numerous to admit to...check....
Then we get there and the movie is all about knocking off Lightning McQueen? Are you serious Walt? Here I try to teach my boys that you solve your problems with words, empathy, and compromise and you negate all of those lessons with, "it won't be Ka-Chow, it will be Ka-Boom!" Don't get me wrong..it was entertaining and my 5 year old was on the edge of his seat through the whole thing, but he also missed the "message" of the movie to be yourself because he was so impressed with the explosives that were used to plot the death of his favorite Disney character.  I may be over reacting and getting too "counselor like" for some of you..but am I wrong that the first CARS had nothing near the sort of violence that was exhibited in the second and it still was a hit?  I can overlook the name calling in the movies and the occasional adult humor, but the focus on killing and hurting others was too much...
Now that I'm finished ranting...I sadly know that it won't stop us from seeing it again, buying more merchandise, or playing out all of the scenes that were shown..I guess I just want it to be known that I think CARS 3 (if they are planning out the story line while basking in all of the money made on CARS 2) needs to make it right again....

Me and the boys at the movies to see CARS 2...I had high hopes :)


Braydon thought it was the best movie ever!


Gullable parents....complain about the movie, but still give in..1st step is awareness right?
All Braydon wants me to do since seeing the flick is tie up Finn McMissle like in the movie...
Random Thought #4  - 

 I'm "Potty"istively Proud of Rhett!  On June 9th Rhett said he was "done with diapeys!" and he has been ever since!  I don't remember Braydon being extremely difficult to train, but I don't remember him being as easy either.  As a matter of fact, I panicked a little when Ms. Vicki, our sitter of four years told us she was retiring  due to the fact that #1 I didn't know at that moment who we could trust with Rhett for the rest of his pre-school years? and #2 How will I potty train Rhett without her help?  Turns out Rhett could do it himself!  Yeah Rhett!  He definitely has a strong will..we have known that since day one, but it turns out that it can be a positive trait because once he has set his mind to it that is the way it's gonna be!  No diapeys, no pull-ups, ....Rhett is a big boy now!  as a matter of fact every time he goes to the potty Braydon and I sing that to him..so much in fact he now sings it himself after every visit :)
Rhett in his big boy "underwears'.. these are my favorite pair! What is it that is so cute about little guys in their first undies?


Random Thought #5 -   I should call my parents more often....
A recent message from my Dad spurred some bad dreams letting me know that I really need to call them daily...was it my mind telling me in my sleep what I felt guilty of ? or just something I ate before bed working against me?..who knows?..but it really isn't a bad goal.  Since that day I have called every day to just give the daily report (okay..it's only been two days and today when I called he said I was late).  I usually don't call anyone everyday...my sister is the closest I come,  but after listening to his message (that was a little hateful I might add) I realized that when I am in his shoes I will be totally offended if my children take days to return a call (however, in my defense we were out of area on a camping trip and after hearing his message I was being a bit spiteful, but I'm over it now :0).  Some things we just never get until we are parents ourselves.....

Random Thought #6 -
I'm so glad I make the effort to take my kids to church.
I am not a religious guru by any means..but I was raised in church and I value the word of God.  From high school graduation until I had children of my own I really didn't go much at all..as a matter of fact, I'm kind of surprised that my home church even allowed me to get married there after not coming for so long. And anyone that knows me at all knows that I am far from perfect, but, once I had children I felt  compelled to find a church to attend.  Luckily, about two years ago now..a friend of mine invited me to attend her church and I went and really liked it.  Ironically it had the same name as the church I grew up in and got married in...Bethel Christian.  I felt welcomed and the messages were clear and I have been attending ever since, but tonight after a week at vacation bible school I over heard Braydon tell Rhett while working a puzzle together, "If we have a problem and we don't know what to do..just keep our eye on Jesus and he will pull us through!" How sweet!  It was evidently, according to the tune, a song he had learned this week, but the fact that he was using it as a way to encourage his little brother made me take notice.  I do admit that I often gripe at Garett that I go to church alone with the boys and have even been known to make comments like, "I hope it's worth it!" when I'm struggling to get them ready on Sunday mornings, but comments like that let me know it is and no matter where life leads them, hopefully, even if they stray, they will be led back to God at some point in their life.  Thank you Bethel Christian for making us feel at home!

Random Thought #7
As I write this and hear Rookie running on his treadmill in the next room...I miss my Byron dog!  Nothing against ya Rookie, but Byron would be snuggled up right beside me right about now..enough said...

Random Thought #8
I don't want to turn 35!
I know it seems young..but once your 35 doesn't it just go downhill? Your children get older..your chances for having anymore (or mine anyway according to Garett) get slimmer, you start to earn more gray hair, wrinkles and fat, you start to sound like your parents,your known only as "Braydon and Rhett's mom", you watch your wedding video of eleven years ago and you can count more than 10 people you knew that are now in heaven, and you get told you need BI-FOCALS! 
Yep..went to the eye doctor with Braydon ..his kindergarten exam and my 1st check-up since Rhett was born..Braydon walks out with 20/20 vision and I walk out with a prescription for bi-focal (no-line) lenses, contacts because my new glasses will evidently be noticeably thicker, and the suggestion to go pick up some reading glasses for support with the contacts! I know it's minor, but it's major to me..especially when I wasn't expecting it and especially a month before I turn 35 (which to me is turning out to be way more traumatic than 30)!


Random Thought #9
I need to see some of my long lost girl friends...you know who you are!  so if you are reading this..it's time to make a plan!  Especially after reading "Random Thought #8" ....being with those that know you best makes it all better :)
On a serious note..I am blessed with some great friends...and even though we don't get to see each other everyday..I know that the next time we talk we will pick up right where we left off :) I am one of the guiltiest..see the random thought about not even calling my parents ;/
I'm looking forward to it!

Random Thought #10

Do others think as randomly as I do? I'm sure they do and I know this is a drop in the bucket to what really goes on between my ears....basically June was full of randoms...random get togethers (thanks to my sister especially for getting the family together for Father's Day), quirky little things that make our day to day interesting, seeing folks that we rarely get to spend time with during what I call my "go" time of year, random, spur of the moment trips, like our spur of the moment boat ride on Lake Herrington or our little camping trip to Levi Jackson State Park (even though Garett didn't get to camp as much as the rest of us),  and random bed times and wake up times (as I look at the clock to realize that I am waaayyyy past the norm).  I am thankful for random moments!